I love Facebook; I really do. Because of Facebook I have been able to keep in touch with people I would have lost track of long ago, and I have been able to re-connect with some old friends in ways I would never have imagined possible before. I am not one to keep up with correspondence. I always forget to buy stamps. Facebook is easy and I am grateful.
Since the kids gave us the iPad mini at Christmas, I have also been dabbling with Instagram and Vine. I’ve been on Twitter for almost a year, but I don’t really know how to use it. I have not gotten involved with Pintrest and have no plans to do so, but I have been the beneficiary of some delicious recipes and fun ideas my children and others have found there. Obviously, I blog.
Social media has become a part of most of our lives. Like any other part of life it has its positives and negatives. These things are tools. They can help us to communicate and learn. Used properly, they can enhance our lives and increase our joy. Used incorrectly, they can rule our lives and make us miserable. It is up to us which way this will go.
About a year ago, I spoke at a ladies retreat and that was when I learned how unhappy social media can make young moms. I had never considered it before, but it makes perfect sense. Social media has given women another forum for showing each other up. I just read Pride and Prejudice. This behavior is not new. The internet simply provides another mask to hide behind, another way to make ourselves look like the people we want to be rather than the people we are. It doesn’t have to be this way, though.
Lately, I have seen a lot of posts on Facebook and read several blog posts and articles about social media. Everyone wants to make reforms. If we followed all of them, no one would post anything–ever! Some people get upset when you mention the weather. They prefer to click on the weather channel or look out the window for that information. There are those who do not want you to post what you got done today, what you are cooking, or what you plan to do. These things make them feel lazy and worthless. Others do not want us to post too many pictures, especially of children and babies. Apparently, children are no longer better seen than heard. Children are better, well, never. Some people don’t want us to compose posts that are too happy. Others don’t want us to be too sad or “dramatic.” Political posts are anathema for some, and so is religion. Do not count down the days to some special event in your life–people find that annoying, and don’t post pictures from your vacation because we can’t all be there with you. Don’t post anything about TV shows or sports because some of your friends have DVR’d them and don’t want the surprise to be spoiled–you thoughtless creature! Don’t tell us about your relationship because some of us have recently broken up, and don’t tell us about your break up because it makes us sad and worried. These are just the complaints that come easily to mind. I am sure I could think of others.
Here are a few principles that would help: 1) Let your words be always with grace seasoned with salt. (Colossians 4:6) 2) Learn to rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep.(Romans 12:15) 3) Don’t compare yourself to others. It isn’t wise. (II Corinthians 10:12) 4) Be patient and kind. Don’t be envious, boastful, arrogant or rude. LOVE without fail. (I Corinthians 13)
Who says the Bible has no relevancy to the problems of today? Not me. Post away, my friends! I hope that at some point we will have some time to actually connect in person over a cup of coffee, but in the meantime I love knowing what’s on your mind and what’s happening in your life, and I enjoy seeing what your kids and grandkids are up to. Keep in touch!